Some weeks ago, I found myself engaged in a scolding session with one of my proteges. She mentioned how she was having some serious issues in her marriage and even considered filing for divorce. I did not hesitate to slap that word out of her mouth, at least I did in my heart.

I told her that divorce should not be the first option she should consider when challenges arise especially if it isn’t that of a physical abuse. I reckon that some types of emotional abuse can be as dangerous as physical abuse but I told her the marriage is too young for her to even be considering that as an option.

“But Mr Seun, I’ve tried my best,” she muttered. I looked straight into her eyes and replied her as calmly as I could: Sometimes your best is not enough. I gave the example of the young man that took the JAMB exam and came out of the exam hall telling everyone he did his best. When the results came out, he found out that he scored 120. Obviously his best was not enough. If he had prepared better, taken lessons and focused more on learning from tutors that are masters at helping people pass JAMB, he would have scored better.

I told my friend that it was important for her to avoid getting counsel from the Association of Social Media Users. I told her to seek professional counselors that could help her on this journey that she hasn’t been on before. I told her to get a few books to help her be abreast of what it entails to be married to an industrious person like her husband. I told her she needed to do more than her best. She needed to seek counsel and wisdom from those that have proven to be good guides on the issues she’s facing.

For some of us, it may not be an issue with our spouse. For some, it may be with a child. I once had a parent walk up to me in church to tell me that she’s tired of being a parent to her “stubborn” son. Ladies and gentlemen of the internet, this particular son in question is just 8 years old but this parent was convinced she had done her best. The interesting thing about this boy was that he was one of my best kids in Sunday school. But the mum was tired of parenting him because of the troubles he gives her at home. I pleaded with her to be patient and prayerful because sometimes our best is not ……

If only we would emphasize the importance of preparing for the many blessings we pray to God for. We mandate an individual to go through years of education in medical school before we would allow them perform a heart surgery on a person but the only requirement needed to marry a daughter of eve and have her heart is whether or not you…. I think I may drifting off course. Or am I?

My main point is this. When you’ve done what seems to be your best and still are not getting the results you desire, it’s high time you get a book to read on the subject matter, get a Jethro who has gone through a similar valley to guide you or go to a reputable school wherein the subject matter is being taught well and learn the basics. Because sometimes your best, done in ignorance of a lot of principles, will not be enough for you to succeed.

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Oh and one more thing, when you eventually meet that person that you seek to get wisdom from, if they tell you to pour water into a jar and it will turn to wine, attempt to do it first without arguing with them. Just thought I mention that point. Please note, this write-up is not for everyone.